To me, God was a “God of rules,” and we definitely didn’t have a relationship. This is my story of finding true relationship with God.
He was “my God” because He was my parents’ God; It was by default. My view of God was all about the God who would send me to hell if I didn’t do right.
I grew up in the church since my dad has been a minister since before I was born but carried a rebellious nature with me.
If I hadn’t been born to a dad who preached fiery repentance from the pulpit every Sunday—my life would have been a different story. I wanted to do what I wanted but was never allowed. Not with my parents. Not with God. I became angry with them both.
I Looked for a Relationship Elsewhere
I was a “good” kid growing up as far as spiritual appearances go. However, God looks not on the outward appearance, but on the heart. He looked at my heart, and found it given away to everyone but Him. I tried to find love and fulfillment through relationships with guys, but as soon as I knew a heart was hooked I moved on as if in a feeding frenzy.
Although at age 18 God confirmed seven times that Justin was the one He had chosen for me, I was focused on his faults and decided I didn’t want to marry him. In short, I ditched him to wait for my ideal man: perfect with no faults. I had just thrown away part of God’s confirmed destiny for my life. Now what?
I still followed God in my own way but wasn’t headed for my destiny in Him. The enemy continually lied that my parents and God rejected me.
Tormented, I felt trapped.
I reached 21 and tried to make a decision for myself. Being mad at God due to the misplaced view I had of Him, I stood outside my workplace one day and prayed a prayer I’ll never forget.
“I don’t want to be a Christian anymore, God. So I’m not.”
Almost the next moment, an unfamiliar feeling arrived in my heart. An unrest had taken over my spirit. I tried to shake it, but it wouldn’t go away. It was worse than the conviction of the Holy Spirit. It was worse than the devil’s torment that God was going to make me do what He wanted instead of what I wanted.
I went on with life, making wrong choices, and getting into a relationship with a man of the world. The feeling increased.
I got off of work at midnight one night, and started driving home. The road took me up a hill that I couldn’t see over. At the top I was suddenly face to face with headlights. The car stopped mere inches from crashing into mine. I had walked out from under God’s protection, but I had a praying mother that kept me alive; she was on her second 40-days of targeted daily prayer and intermittent fasting for me.
At that point, I knew what the feeling was. I had opened the door to a lot of demons, and I felt their evil presence.
I was terrified, but I not only didn’t know how to fix my life, I wouldn’t.
Revelation of True Relationship
I knew God was real since I felt Him draw my heart to His at a service at the tender age of five. All I knew to do was to tell God I was sorry, and ask Jesus into my heart all over again so I wouldn’t go to hell. Yet, the 10,000 times I had done that my whole life hadn’t gotten me off the hamster wheel.
A few weeks later, my mom asked to talk to me. I thought I was going to get a lecture, but agreed because her gentle demeanor intrigued me. A book had caught her eye while she was in the library, and she came to read it to me. I was an adult; it was a children’s book. She knew it seemed silly, but she pleaded softly to let her read it to me.
The book was about a young animal talking to his mom. On each page the fuzzy little one asked if his parent would still love him if he made a mistake from various scenarios. Without fail, the mom answered that she would love him anyway. Before the end of the book we were both crying. My mom said, “Even if you never came back to God, I would still love you. Even if you married this guy, I would still love you. Even if you didn’t love me, I would still love you. And God would still love you, too.” She did not lecture me or try to convince me that I was wrong; she just loved.
My heart reached a revelation that afternoon. God wouldn’t force me to love Him. He would still love me if I rejected Him. For the first time, I understood selfless love. It was the most gentle healing I have ever experienced.
My mother’s praying and fasting enabled my deliverance to take place. That night I got out of the relationship. The following Sunday I gave my life back to God, but for the first time I yielded my whole heart to Him. At the altar that day, my dad was quietly dismissing the demons that had taken residence in my life. I quickly noticed I had peace again.
In the weeks that followed, I discovered that God wanted a relationship with me, not a rule-keeping ritual. I learned how to be loved by Him because my view had lined up to what was true.
Soon after, I discovered that Love satisfies. It still does.God wouldn’t force me to love Him. He would still love me if I rejected Him. For the first time, I understood selfless love.
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