Life and Marriage: 4 Steps to Keep Walking with God

Welcome to Day 14 of our #GodlyAdventure! Here’s wisdom from Beth Steffaniak to help keep your steps firm in walking with God in life and marriage!

Ever feel like you’ve lost your way in marriage? If you’re a believer, then you know just how crucial it is to invite Jesus into your daily walk in life and marriage.

But sometimes the demands and busyness of life can distract us from that all-important focus.

Other times we let our spouses lead us down a winding and pointless road of spiritual wandering or vice versa.

Then there are the times when we simply let our own selfish and bitter hearts tempt us toward a road strewn with conflict-ridden potholes.

Even though each one of these paths is tragic—though not unredeemable—the worst of these is to not invite Him to walk with us every single day.

So how do we overcome these wayward and dead-end tendencies, choosing instead to walk with God in our lives and marriages?  

4 Ways to Keep Walking with God in the Challenges of Marriage

1. Let Jesus set the pace.

Years ago my husband and I took our three sons to Disney World. The day was coming to a close and it was getting dark. But the crowds were still thick and pushing in on us, even as we tried to stay together. Because of that, our youngest five-year-old son let go of my husband’s hand—getting pulled away in the sea of people.

After realizing that he was missing, we began to panic. Thankfully, a Disney worker alerted the other Disney workers to be on the lookout for a separated child. Minutes later, he was located and returned to us—no harm, no foul.

In the same way, our busy lives and schedules can pull us away from staying hand-in-hand with Jesus. Now, Jesus never loses His grip on us! But we definitely can lose sight of Him when we let these other earthly concerns press in on us like that overwhelming crowd did on that day.

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That’s why we need to guard against letting the demands of our schedules determine our pace of life. Instead, we need to let Jesus set the pace by ordering our lives around Him…

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33 ESV

2. Make time for Him each day.

Have you ever tried to walk with someone who constantly walked much faster than you?

That’s how it is when we race past Jesus each day, instead of inviting Him to speak to us, while walking slowly with Him.

So we must carve out time to read His word and pray each day. This doesn’t have to be a huge chunk of time necessarily. Just be sure to extend your time by continuing to walk and talk with Him—keeping Him your constant companion all day long. Doing this daily guards against the tendency to spiritually wander.

3. Allow God to refine you in and through the conflicts of marriage.

Sadly, I’ve often let the conflicts of my marriage discourage and define me, rather than refine me. So I try to keep in mind this important passage whenever conflicts arise in my marriage

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. James 4:1-2 ESV

Whenever conflict erupts, I try to identify the desires that I’ve turned into demands of my spouse. Then I confess and surrender these wayward desires at Jesus’ feet. It is then that He meets my needs in a heart-satisfying way.

I also try to focus on my sin first, remembering Matthew 7:4-5 that tells me to take the “log out” of my own eye before trying to remove “the speck” in my mate’s.

Both of these paths and approaches provided by God avoid the potholes of conflict in marriage.

4. Recognize Him

Even though it’s so important to invite Jesus to walk with us in life and marriage, the truth is, He is always there! This is a lot like the men who were walking along the road to Emmaus (Luke 24:13-32). Jesus was walking with them and they didn’t even recognize Him at first.

Does that describe you? Are you going through life without recognizing Jesus’ presence and power that’s always available to you in your life and marriage?

If so, then don’t take another step without recognizing your best walking partner in marriage is God! As long as you stay in step with Him, you’ll be able to navigate the twists and turns you face in life and marriage.

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Which of these four strategies do you need to focus on the most in your marriage?

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  1. Love this advice, Beth! I especially like the idea of letting Jesus set the pace in my marriage. That’s a new idea I’ll be thinking about today, friend. Sharing on Twitter and Pinterest 🙂

    1. I’m glad it was encouraging to you, Sarah. I think our relationship with our spouses is so closely tied to and fueled by our relationship with God. So it’s absolutely essential that we walk with God in order to deal with the challenges of marriage. Thanks for coming by and joining the conversation, my friend!

    1. Thank you, Andrew! And I can tell that you and Barbara have learned how to navigate those differences–allowing you to remain linked through your shared faith in the Lord. I’m so glad it has kept you both bonded, my friend! Praying you feel God comforting you in your challenges too!

  2. Great post, Beth! For me, #1 and #2 go hand in hand, no pun intended. While making time for Jesus, I need walk at the pace He’s directing me in. So, right after this, I’m going to make time for Him before going any further with my day. Thanks for this gently worded reminder!

    1. I think that’s a great pun actually, Cindy! And I agree completely. The two are so integral to each other that it really cannot be separated. I’m so glad to hear that you do that! It’s my priority as well and has been the main reason I am in a much less messy marriage than I was years ago! Thanks for your encouragement, my friend!

  3. I love your description of letting Jesus set the pace. How easy it is to walk at our own pace with our heads down and miss Him in the crowd.

    1. Great way to say it and picture it, Elaine! We do miss Him in the crowd and craziness of our days. Better to keep looking to Him each day–leaning into His strength and grace for each moment’s need. Thanks for your encouraging words to me!

  4. mmm … that #3 ‘refine’ piece caught my eye, Beth. Nothing about refining comes easy. There is a price and it often hurts to be melted and molded and re-configured.

    And we work extra hard to avoid that experience because it seems like all is lost.

    And then … God does His work. And we are never the same, we have a story to tell.

    1. You said it so well, Linda! If only we could grasp that truth in the painful moment. But my husband and I have seen it afterwards time after time! Thanks for your encouragement, dear friend! I hope you are doing well!

  5. Thank you, Beth, for framing marriage as a spiritual discipline, a gift that brings us closer to God and reveals our true heart in a way not much else can do!

    1. Isn’t God amazing, Michele! It’s like He just can’t stop at one blessing from one part of our lives, but multiplies every aspect of life and marriage with so many blessed outcomes and purposes that we scarcely can take them all in! Thank you for stopping in to support and encourage me, my friend!

  6. Letting conflict refine me is quite hard for me. But when I do, the blessings are there.

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