There are probably a few people you don’t like. I don’t mean people who work in politics, but someone who is in your neighborhood, work place or even (gasp!) at church. There has probably been a face or two that have come to mind. Who are they? Get that face fixed in your head now.
Do you inwardly groan when you see that person’s name pop up on your caller ID, or when you see him walking toward you?
Do you try to avoid that person?
Do you ever seek that person out to ask, “How are you?” Or only when you have to upon occasion of passing?
Does your heart feel yucky at the mention of his name?
Would you say you “really don’t like him”? Or hate him? Or not that you “really don’t like him,” it’s that you just “don’t like” him? Does it even matter that you don’t like him, really don’t like him, or hate him? The question is, do you love him? If we’re going to play semantics then the word love in the following verses means “fond of.” So in reality, if you’re not fond of that person, then you are really in trouble.
He who says he is in the light and hates his brother is in darkness until now. He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no offense in him. But he who hates his brother is in darkness, and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because darkness has blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:9-11MKJV
We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brothers. He who does not love his brother abides in death. Everyone hating his brother is a murderer. And you know that no murderer has everlasting life abiding in him. By this we have known the love of God, because He laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. 1 John 3:14-16 MKJV
I am not the Judge. God is. Do you need to repent? Repentance simply means you are changing the direction you are going. Which way are you going to go with this? Do you need to change how you feel toward that person?
UPDATE: When I was studying the word love in the above verses, I forgot about the three types of love in the Greek, which all mean different things. The type of love in these verses is the same word given toward the brethren, as well as all men (including enemies in Matthew 5:44), and it does not mean having an affection for them. I originally mixed up two of the types.
Ultimately this post was not a study of the different types of love. My point for this post is that too often people say, “I love them, but I don’t like them,” as an excuse to abandon looking at the motive of their heart. I don’t believe that that’s God’s best for us.