The Beauty of Growing Pains

From Kelly: This is a guest post by Hope Wilbanks. I met Hope on twitter, and she is truly a joy to know. I hope you will be just as encouraged by her as I have.

What now by breahn


That was the balance in our checking account.

I crumbled into a pile of sobs and tears.

It seemed like no matter how hard my husband worked, or how tight we buckled our purse strings, there just wasn’t enough money to make ends meet every month.

I watched my husband work long hours in a factory. Sweat over the wood he crafted. Trying just to break even.

Every time we thought we might get ahead on bills, another setback pushed our finances to the limit again. God, will this never end?

It didn’t seem fair. My husband worked so hard to provide for our little family. But it was never enough.

I always asked God, “Why?” Always got mad. Blamed God for our money problems. Blamed Him for our lack.

Quite a few more years of living in this financial anxiety eventually taught me the God-lesson I was meant to learn from the very beginning.

My problem was the perfect opportunity for Him to develop endurance in me. 

If it weren’t for those years in a financial wilderness, I wouldn’t have the mental strength I know I possess today. If not for the times we barely had enough money to buy diapers and a few groceries, I wouldn’t have a giving heart.

In that problem, I learned what it means to hold on and stay strong, even when all seems hopeless. I learned how to live on a little, and appreciate the little I did have.

I learned in the worst of times to dig in my heels and not let go.

If you’re struggling with your own problem right now, you may be circling the same mountain. Take comfort in Romans 5:3, “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.”

Your problems are meant for your good. They aren’t meant to break your spirit, but to shape you into a stronger, more persistent person.

It isn’t an easy task to be happy about a problem. Especially if it’s one you’ve dealt with for some time. But God loves you and only wants the best for you. This pain you feel won’t last forever. It’s just a growing pain that will pass once you learn to endure.

Photo credit: breahn (Creative Commons)

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hope-close_reasonably_smallHope Wilbanks is a writer, wife, mother, teacher, and lover of Jesus. Her mission is encouraging women. You can read more at .

22 thoughts on “The Beauty of Growing Pains

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  2. Thank you Hope & Kelly! I needed this soooo much today! My DH & I have been going around this mountain for sometime now and it’s gut-wrenching more often than not. So far I’ve learned that the Lord has provided everything we’ve NEEDED and to be grateful for that. The rest I have to let go and let God.

    I have pep-talk myself every time – God is good and He will provide for us. I have to TRUST Him and I need to let it go!

    I can remember too that “My problem was the perfect opportunity for Him to develop endurance in me.”

    Thanks again!

  3. I understand that anger thing! I turned away from God for so many years because of it. It’s awesome to be back in His care. 🙂

    Thank you so much for sharing!

  4. Hi Kelly & Hope,

    Kelly ~ Thanks for having Hope as a Guest whom I have also found to be a Joyful Encourager. 😀

    Hope ~ Love this! ❤ Great encouragement reminder for me & I'm sure others as well. The way You've shared this candid look at your 'life-lesson' is honest, humble & refreshing.

    Have a JOY-Full Day!
    Love Ya Both, Susie 🙂

    • Thank you so much, Susie! If I have learned one thing in this life, it’s this…we need to encourage one another from our own pain, mistakes, failures, flaws, etc. Because when I can see how God has used you and brought you from your “messes”, it encourages me to believe that He will do the same for me. 😉 God is good!!

  5. Great post, Hope! We’ve been down the same road many times, but God always makes a way and He seldom does it small. Your miracle is right around the corner! Our right attitudes and responses do not go unnoticed by our God!

  6. Wow… is sure is good to know that I am not alone in this. But the reminder to again look at the future and what God is growing in us. Thx…

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